I’m told by folks who know about these things that femininity is sacred. It is, and for all the reasons they say it is. It’s not only about the biological construct of women that gives us the ability to conceive, give birth and nurture life. It’s more about connectivity – being one half of a whole being that comprises both male and female essence. It’s about vast consciousness, intuition, understanding, knowledge and wisdom in abundance to tap into and harness the internal power which we all possess. I get it.
What I don’t get is why so many of us spend so much time and energy broadcasting to the world what, to my mind, must surely be a private and deeply personal experience as we seek a deeper meaning and purpose for our lives.
It seems to me that as women, we may have lost ourselves in our continuing efforts to convince other people that we are enlightened to the point that we possess the master key to sacred femininity and that in our infinite wisdom, we have reached the peak of divine spirituality. After all, our unceasing reliance on womb washing, jade eggs, yoni steam treatments and suchlike, must guarantee our standing above the rest. But don’t get me wrong, womb washing, jade eggs, yoni steam treatments and suchlike are fine IF you think there is something wrong with you. But coming from this sacred place of absolute femininity, where the vagina rules our existence, we are surely elevated to some otherworldly status. I really do wonder about that. It stands to reason that if we choose to live in a state of constant purification, and we define our worth by our zeal in performing various acts of spiritual cleansing, we must be better off than the “simpletons” who don’t give a rat’s ass about anything they cannot see. Yet, champions of these treatments seem to be always searching for something beyond ourselves – something just beyond our reach. Something akin to happiness, peace and contentment.
I have no doubt that some proponents of sacred femininity truly believe that embracing this core aspect of ourselves is beneficial to our own health and spiritual well-being, but I think the problem comes when we start to believe our own hype – when spirituality becomes an act – more of a show that a “lived reality.” Sadly, many women today have created a false sense of spirituality which bears little or no relation to who we are as human beings.
I wonder what would happen if we sought to purify our actions, attitudes and relationships with others before we ventured into endless ritualistic displays of spirituality. A wise man once said “pretense of spirituality does not a spiritual person make.” I believe this to be true. Too often we see elaborate productions of spirituality and “godliness” used to veil or distract from the ugliness and misery that we know to be alive and well within us. Perhaps if we modified our actions and behaviors first, the act of perpetual purification might begin to take a back seat to the real catharsis that comes when we genuinely acknowledge our humanity and that of others, and we treat one another with kindness, love and respect.