How High is Your Self Image?
Self image is how you see or perceive yourself in relation to others. This may refer to how you compare yourself physically with others, or may be more about how you visualize yourself, which could also be called self-concept. Your self image is very critical as it can seriously affect your self-esteem and confidence. Your self image may be altered by how people perceive or treat you, and depending on your confidence level, this affects how they relate to you. It can affect your relationships either positively or negatively.
Self image includes:
– How you consider yourself physically
– How your inner personality comes across
– What sort of person you think you are
– What you imagine others think about you
– How high you rate yourself or how much you think others rate or like you
Self-concept or self image is the inner mental picture we preserve of ourselves – itís who we think we are and may not necessarily be true. The incredible thing is that often other people perceive us in a way that doesnít agree with our own self image. Each of us communicates out of our self-perceived notion about ourselves.
Your own self image is composed of your natural in-born temperament and input from other people like your immediate family, instructors, friends, enemies and, most importantly, yourself. It takes some amount of time and a constant message to finally influence how a person feels about him or her ìself.î
So if you want to improve your self image, first change your self-talk; those ëpettyí thing you say or think about yourself so mercilessly like – I will never be able to do so, I may never win, etc. To modify or improve your self-image requires that other people see you as an important personality and then you provide them a consistent, credible message to them over time. Changing your self image is not effortless, and the person involved in the change must believe that improvement can occur.
A individual ís self image is the mental image, normally of a type that is quite defiant to change, that portrays not only particulars that are potentially obtainable to objective analysis by others like your weight, height, skin color, IQ etc., but also bits and pieces that have been learned by that individual, either from private experiences or by incorporating the opinions of other people.
Creating a positive self image can be a very daunting task, particularly when family members or general society uphold pessimistic evaluations about you, that happens to be imprecise. The consequences of which are not only callous for the sufferer, who may develop self-hatred, but also brutal for the society.
Understanding Self Image
Someone once said that self image is everything, and they were right. This may sound a bit abstract as a statement, but with a little clarification, you’ll see what I mean, and maybe even improve your own self image along the way.
Of course, a basic definition for self image would be given as ëthe way one sees oneself. Yet the ramifications are neither so cursory nor unimportant. There are people in this world that have bodies others would give their eye-teeth for. They may be muscular or simply very fit, have a jaw line worthy of admiration, or the most incredible eyes ever seen. And despite all this, they may have a low self image.
Much of our self image goes beyond our physical being. While the way we look may be helpful, this is not always the case, and in some instances, may even be harmful. Letís extrapolate upon some of these ideas.
Self image has to do strongly with oneís inner character, personality, religious and meta-ethical beliefs, the type of childhood they had, their parents and siblings, and even the friends that they surround themselves with. For instance, a person who surrounds herself with people that are superficial, nit-picky, or even downright negative, will often take on these same attributes. Of course, starting and staying with such relationships may be more symptomatic than causative as this only perpetuates the problems of poor self image yet does not initiate the problem.
A person has to have respect for him or herself. Itís found that very often we treat others better than we treat ourselves, when in fact we should treat everyone ñincluding ourselves, equally. Simply put, you must be fair with yourself. Let me give you an example of this idea of fairness.
Many people have learned that in having a love relationship that itís best to not dredge up very old problems during arguments. Many relationship counselors suggest any specific incident should be dealt with immediately, but should never be fought about more than 2 weeks after the fact. Why not do the same with yourself? If there is anyone that you should love, itís yourself (the old but true saying goes that if you donít love yourself, no one else will). So, as with a lover, learn from your mistakes, but donít remind yourself of your past mistakes if youíre doing so in a negative way.
On the other side of the coin, donít let others treat you poorly or youíll refer to yourself badly too, even if only in your mind. Prompt yourself to be more assertive, to demand respect from others ñ and then give yourself the same respect.
The way we view ourselves is essential to our being, and even to how we get through life. Those who do well in life generally have learned to be comfortable in their own skin that is, to at least like, if not love, themselves. We can all learn from this idea.